I'd likely end up talking the ladies into attending night school, or walking my dog for a nominal fee. Yes, I write this from my middle-class pedestal. I've never fallen on life-threatening hard times, but I know this: Women, every single one of them, are worth more than their bodies.
In an ideal world, everyone would see that. But clearly, I'm a newbie in this world. In the interest of exploring all sides of the debate, I tracked down a friend-of-a-Facebook-friend who agreed to talk to me about his experience with prostitutes — or "prosties" as he called them — and why he frequents a Toronto brothel.
Tim, a divorced year-old from Mississauga who hasn't had free sex in over six months, met me at a pub. I was shocked at how easy it was to find someone with personal experience and didn't know exactly what to ask.
Thankfully, he wanted to share. He admits that "regular sex" would be a better option, but says it's difficult to meet people in his circles. Still, "doing it with someone I see a lot … that'd be better I guess.
He tells me about his lost love, his ex-wife. His eyes light up when he talks about their honeymoon heat — but they darken again when the conversation turns. He starts ranting about one lady in particular at the "house" he frequents. His emotional attachment to her is clear "she's pretty and really sweet, you'd like her, I swear" and he genuinely thinks she cares about him.
What about your safety? Tim's response is quick, and blunt: He uses protection, but admits, "when I get to that point and I'm there, I'm not worried about safety. When Tim and I part ways, I walk home, confident in my original advice, but saddened for those who can't avoid prostitution. The decision to pay someone for sex not only diminishes the act, I think to myself, but devalues both parties involved. Have a sex question? This is a space where subscribers can engage with each other and Globe staff.
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Letters to the Editor. The Real Estate Market. Quick links Horoscopes Puzzles Customer service My account. Article text size A. Open this photo in gallery: But as long as the female's responses are right, then that first anxiety is easy to overcome. I came to brothels all through my marriage, even when I was having an affair. It wasn't that I wasn't being satisfied - I was - but males have an urge. Every now and then I have a need, a craving, for a different female.
Sex doesn't necessarily mean anything to a male. I mean, it might develop into something, but initially it doesn't mean anything other than sheer excitement. But I don't think women understand that. Angelo, 23, computer programmer Why am I here? I don't come here for the conversation, that's for sure.
I don't care who I see or what she looks like as long as she isn't fat or horrible, and doesn't stink. She can be old, though not much older than, say, If I want to have anal intercourse, or something a bit different, I can generally have it here. Seriously, women's bums are cute. I love them, and occasionally I want to screw them. There's nothing wrong with that, except not many girls will let you. They've got hang-ups about it being dirty, which it isn't, or that it might hurt. Here, I know that, within reason, there won't be any problem.
That's the thing about paying money: The customer is always right. The other thing about being here is that the sex is better, and that's a fact. It's always better with a whore.
The only real problem with being with a whore - and this is a minor one, but I'll say it - is condoms. They always say you have to wear them. If I have girlfriends who want to use condoms, I say: I've got a steady girlfriend at the moment, pretty serious.
She's Greek, so my parents are happy. We'll probably get married. The only problem is sex. She was a virgin before me and she's a bit nervous about it and won't do a lot of things. But then you'd expect that.
I would probably be suspicious if she was too eager or knew too much. Deep down, I don't like the idea of being with used goods. I don't get embarrassed about coming here. My mates know about it; they come too.
I don't tell my girlfriend because it's different with women. Anyway, it's none of their business. It'll be the same when I'm married. Dominic, 39, builder In a way, I think this helps my marriage. Sometimes my wife doesn't want to have sex. It could start an argument. But I come here and that's it - we don't have an argument. Edward, 44, truck driver I've been coming to parlours off and on for the past 20 years. I don't go to a different girl every time. If I have one I like, I stay with her.
I don't know what it is about the girl I usually see here that attracts me. She's nothing like my wife. She's younger and smaller, and she does different things without whingeing. My wife won't do oral sex. Being with these girls does make you feel pretty good as a bloke, as a lover I suppose.
It's just a good feeling, a good physical sexual feeling. And paying for it doesn't take any of that away. I suppose I do think of myself as a good lover and I reckon that both of us are getting something out of it, not just me.
I presume the women here would think that. Maybe some of them enjoy being with me, maybe some don't. I think I'd be able to tell if they didn't. Although I suppose it's only a job to them, isn't it?
Could make it hard to tell. I'd hope the one I was with would enjoy it. She said she did. If I knew that she didn't like it, I wouldn't come back. Jack, 70, pensioner My wife is deceased and I still have some sexual urges, so about once a month I come and see Marnie. She's a very sweet young lady.
When my wife was alive, that was it for me. There were no other activities. I didn't look for it. The sex I have here is fairly ordinary. Nothing kinky - none of the things you read about. I don't know if Marnie physically enjoys what she does with me.
If she enjoys some part of it or a portion of it, then it is more fulfilling for me.. The subject who is truly loyal to the Chief Magistrate will neither advise nor submit to arbitrary measures. I've never been into a strip club, for related reasons: Secretary for Security John Lee Ka-chiu rejected the suggestion, saying prostitution in the city was already under control. The bill just has had its first reading. They've got hang-ups about it being dirty, which it isn't, or that it might hurt.