Age wasn't a factor here, nor was race or gender. I was shocked at their responses. This group was way more open-minded than I had expected them to be. Or maybe they were just super excited to see the movie. My next question to the backlit faces opposite me was, "Have you ever used a person for sex and then stayed friends with them afterwards?
People also randomly shouted stuff at me - marriage proposals, requests for my phone number. One thing was certain in the melee, everyone there agreed that a friendship CAN survive after you've slept together but it really depends on the circumstances and whom it was with.
When quizzed, both sexes established the fact that we girls are more likely to become clingy and let our emotions get in the way. They also agreed that guys take advantage of those of us who are open to and filling a void with casual sex. The whole crowd concurred: Interestingly, when I polled the females in the room and asked which was more important - pursuing their careers or settling down - 90 percent said they were more focused on work, but agreed it was possible to "have it all.
The clique also collectively expressed that males should show their emotions more. Those in attendance with a penis all admitted they had their hearts broken at some point in their lives, which had affected their ability to commit again. The room burst out, "Awwww! They also wanted the ladies to know that they think it's attractive when we're self-sufficient and we don't need to rely on them.
If you haven't seen "No Strings Attached" on the silver screen yet, you should. Normally I hate romantic comedies but the theme of this picture struck a chord. Not to mention both Portman and Kutcher are really funny in it. Being the over-achieving alpha female that I am with no free time for intimacy, I identified with Portman's character, a busy doctor to-be in med school.
In the beginning of the flick Kutcher goes through a bad break-up and isn't looking for a hook up with hang-ups. These two end up having sex one night and the issue becomes, as best friends, can they be sex friends? You have to see it to find out what happens in the end, but they do discover establishing ground rules helps.
It's easier to maintain this type of an association when both parties are on the same page so there are no hurt feelings or unmet expectations. If this is an experience you'd like to explore, here's a list of guidelines to follow that I've culled from the film, and then added a few from my own personal arsenal.
You have successfully signed up for your selected newsletter s - please keep an eye on your mailbox, we're movin' in! Follow The Single Life on Twitter. Friend Sam on Facebook. Getting things started can be as simple as having a conversation with someone whose company you enjoy, letting things get a little naughty, and seeing where things go from there. State things in that order for best results and then take it from there.
A casual friend, an attractive acquaintance, a hook up you hit it off with, an old college acquaintance, or an ex coworker are all much better bets. There are no wrong reasons to want to end things. Maybe you feel like one or both of you are getting too attached and you want to back off for a while.
Remember, honesty, communication, and discretion are the keys to success here just as they are in any other type of relationship.
Keep that in mind every step of the way and all will go well. Your email address will not be published. You may use these HTML tags and attributes: That said, a no strings attached relationship could be a good fit for you if: You like the idea of a relationship, but are too busy or focused on other things to focus on a commitment right now. You appreciate being able to keep your options open and pursue a little fun with other people you might also be attracted to. Always, always, always have protected sex.
Understand that honesty is imperative. Understand that the no strings attached relationship is not a replacement for your ex....