Men who buy women for sex have no respect for women. She said many of the sex workers she has met have been single mothers or students looking for money. More than half of sex workers have been sexually abused as children or teenagers. Others have been raped, neglected or harassed.
Simone, 48, still suffers from anxiety and PTSD. The sex workers in the explosive new book say they were repeatedly abused. Her mother had a mental illness and her home life was unstable. She was raped twice in her teens, once at knifepoint and another time in front of a group. But when she refused to kiss or have anal sex with one client, he became aggressive and had rough sex with her.
It seemed as though he was expecting me to tell him how much I had enjoyed myself. Others refused to pay or called her a slut. She became dependent on codeine and morphine to get through up to hour shifts. He was in his 50s and wanted me to recount things from my childhood so he could get off, such as my first sexual encounter. Men would often ring around the brothels asking for new young girls, so when one was in, it was like a feeding frenzy.
The madam paid Jade in meth, and she became hooked. She regularly travelled to Australia, where she would get more work because she was new.
One day she broke her tailbone from a fall, but was made to work anyway, wearing seven-and-a-half-inch stiletto heels. Eventually, she was diagnosed with drug-induced schizophrenia and PTSD, and she has counselling to this day. But she too helped maintain the cycle, working as a madam at a brothel and supplying a girl for a well-known paedophile.
Stories like that of Samantha X — of attractive, high-class escorts, who love their work and live a glamorous lifestyle — are often recounted by the media.
Many women in the book say they once claimed the same. The survivors gathering this weekend say the experiences they recognise are about violence, exploitation, drug abuse and self-harm. Yet they say the blame fell on them, rather than the men who paid to have sex with them. Figures suggest at least 90 per cent of sex workers want to get out of the industry. Eventually, I chose to work as an escort exclusively. At that time, the reason I gave up my programming job was the free time.
I was caring for a family member with a serious illness — the free time and money was a huge benefit. However, I have always been concerned about how the social and legal issues may affect my future and the people that I love.
What kind of clients do you have? They tend to be doctors, lawyers, and businessmen looking to get away for a few hours in the middle of the day. Almost all of my clients are married. I rarely got the opportunity to find out if the wives were ok with it, but I did see several couples, so I assume they were ok with it. I insist that they give me their full names and their place of work so that I can contact them there before we meet.
I also check their identification when we meet. I also use verification companies, which assist escorts in verification of clients. For a fee, I can call in and they will tell me if the client has a history of giving the girls problems, where he works, and his full name. If I was touring then there were extra expenses such as travel costs, hotels, and more advertising costs. That said, my choice to become an escort had a definite cost associated with it beyond the advertising, photos, and websites.
I believe it is close to impossible to have a healthy relationship while working. So it can be a lonely life. In addition, hiding my job from my friends and family proved to be difficult for many reasons. How do you think prostitution would change if it were legalised? Would you want your own child to become a prostitute? If the social and legal ramifications were gone, I think that being an escort might be like being a therapist I have never been a therapist, so my knowledge is obviously limited.
Like most escorts, a therapist sells his or her skills by the hour. A therapist also has to meet people for the first time not knowing who is walking in the door. Many have their own offices and work alone. In addition, the session is generally private and requires discretion. If I had a child, I would hope that they would feel empowered, and have the opportunity to do whatever they desire to do, and that they would be in charge of their own sexuality.
This job has its downsides, though, and can take a high toll on a person. So, like any parent, I would always want more for my child than I had for myself. I feel that prostitution should be legal. I realise that there are women in prostitution who are there because they feel like they have to be. These women work in a different part of the industry than I did. Many have drug or abuse issues, among other problems..