The father brought him down. She bought a birthday cake and a present. Another of her clients was a virgin too, and wasn't going to live much longer. His mother contacted her. Now she sees him once every six weeks. It's been a year. The mother drives the sex worker back to the train station, and says her son is much happier all round since having her visit. The sex worker says she is used to being introduced to clients with disabilities through a parent, usually a mother rather than a father, and has never been asked to work with someone's daughter.
If a disabled person loses their virginity with a sex worker in a way that teaches them about their body and how to please a partner, it can set them up to become a confident, knowledgeable and sexually skilled individual who can proceed to finding a partner. However, if they have a progressive condition, their life can feel too full of disappointment and loss to try to find a partner and they may prefer to stay seeing sex workers, with whom a good outcome is guaranteed.
As for disabled women, many tell me they would love to pay somebody who knows what they are doing, who helps them learn what their bodies are capable of enjoying, but most never try. They may be nervous that the man they are paying is not entirely professional and they may not think enough of themselves to treat themselves to the luxury of pleasure.
That, I hope is changing. Most of the women I know who have paid have gone to female sex workers, and none of them have involved their mother in the process of making contact. Sex workers have very special qualities. They are skilled at giving pleasure in whatever way is required. Sometimes carers need to prepare disabled person in advance: They may need to be on hand in case of difficulties, such as the onset of autonomic dysreflexia.
They may need to help position the disabled person, and teach the sex worker certain essentials. The best scenario is if the disabled person has seen a "sexual advocate" beforehand, someone with whom they can work out exactly what they want, what they need, and how they want the experience to be, as some disabled people like non-disabled people cannot think beyond "I want sex", and have expectations that can never be met, so will end up disappointed.
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